Photo by Ella Jardim on Unsplash A very common challenge I see as a childhood trauma coach, and in working with childhood trauma survivors, is the difficulty in choosing and navigating our adult relationships, both romantic and platonic. To suffer developmental trauma as a young child, both physical and emotional, can have severe and lasting repercussions for how […]

Creating Intentional Relationships as Trauma Survivors

What Childhood Trauma Recovery Actually Looks Like vs. What We Think it Should Look Like.

Photo by Wedding Dreamz on Unsplash As much as I would love to say that your trauma recovery journey is linear, like a sprinter dashing off in a straight path to cross the finish line, this is not how trauma recovery works. In fact, it’s pretty much the opposite of this. If we can begin to understand and […]

As trauma survivors, or those still challenged by acute trauma, mental health struggles, PTSD, or cPTSD, we all, at various times, can suffer from an abandonment mindset. You are not alone in this, and recognizing that just under the surface of abandonment is the fear of rejection is extremely important.

Breaking Free From the Abandonment Mindset

Trauma Recovery Coaching vs. Therapy

What is trauma recovery coaching and how is it different than therapy?

Understanding cPTSD can be a major piece of the puzzle when it comes to healing from childhood trauma and family dysfunction. Photo by Julie Kwak on Unsplash If you have unhealed childhood trauma due to abuse, neglect, and dysfunction during your most influential developmental years, it’s likely that you have had difficulties navigating adulthood. As […]

Complex PTSD has a deep and often lasting impact on our nervous systems and our lives.

Why do I feel like I’m 10-15 years behind everyone else my age?

It’s not just you, it’s common for childhood trauma to create a developmental delay, causing survivors to feel stuck and behind long after childhood. As a trauma survivor, one of the most challenging internal obstacles that I faced was a chronic feeling of being “behind” and “stuck.”  For so long, it felt as if no matter what […]

We can’t begin to heal from the past until we acknowledge that we have a past to heal from trauma. I have clients who, even though they chose to work with me specifically because of my focus on childhood trauma, question if their childhood experiences were really that “traumatic.” Heck, I spent decades of my […]

My childhood wasn’t that bad, was it? A guide to understanding childhood trauma.

Keeping quiet and playing small in response to childhood trauma.

How Complex PTSD creates long-term survival tools that can eventually stop protecting and start hindering your authentic self. For most of my life, upon meeting me, many would say I was shy, quiet, and even standoffish. I’ve had people in the past tell me I was hard to read and questioned if I like them. When I […]

As trauma survivors, in order to heal, we must bring awareness to our need for external validation and learn how to give ourselves the approval we desperately seek from others. I grew up with emotionally neglectful and unstable caretakers throughout every stage of my life, from birth through my twenties. Looking back, it’s kind of […]

Is your need for external validation, approval, and attention a complex trauma response?

Why does conflict cause me so much overwhelm and anxiety?

As childhood trauma survivors, many of us we will do just about anything to avoid confrontation because, from our experiences, we grew to believe conflict equals abandonment. I grew up watching the adults in my life fight like cats and dogs nearly every day. I’m not talking about simple disagreements, I’m talking about in your face, […]