It’s not just you, it’s common for childhood trauma to create a developmental delay, causing survivors to feel stuck and behind long after childhood. As a trauma survivor, one of the most challenging internal obstacles that I faced was a chronic feeling of being “behind” and “stuck.”  For so long, it felt as if no matter what […]

We can’t begin to heal from the past until we acknowledge that we have a past to heal from trauma. I have clients who, even though they chose to work with me specifically because of my focus on childhood trauma, question if their childhood experiences were really that “traumatic.” Heck, I spent decades of my […]

How Complex PTSD creates long-term survival tools that can eventually stop protecting and start hindering your authentic self. For most of my life, upon meeting me, many would say I was shy, quiet, and even standoffish. I’ve had people in the past tell me I was hard to read and questioned if I like them. When I […]

As trauma survivors, in order to heal, we must bring awareness to our need for external validation and learn how to give ourselves the approval we desperately seek from others. I grew up with emotionally neglectful and unstable caretakers throughout every stage of my life, from birth through my twenties. Looking back, it’s kind of […]

As childhood trauma survivors, many of us we will do just about anything to avoid confrontation because, from our experiences, we grew to believe conflict equals abandonment. I grew up watching the adults in my life fight like cats and dogs nearly every day. I’m not talking about simple disagreements, I’m talking about in your face, […]